Post By: Rajesh Chakrabortty
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Ending a lengthy relationship is consistently tough, yet at times, it spirals into chaos despite earnest attempts for a smoother outcome. With two parties engaging in harmful actions, the turmoil intensifies, but it only necessitates one individual being malicious, irrational, and controlling to taint a relationship.
Terminating an unhealthy bond doesn’t instantly purge the toxicity. At times, it deteriorates before getting better, but inevitably, if the relationship is toxic, it will be beneficial. Walking away necessitates self-esteem, self-care, and bravery, positioning yourself (and your children, if applicable) for the life you merit.
Establish Objectives for Mediation
Divorce mediation, a type of conflict resolution aimed at helping both parties agree on mutually satisfactory terms, is typically voluntary but highly recommended. Mediation can expedite agreement-making and promote mutual satisfaction.
Even if you and your spouse struggle to agree on everything at present, engaging in a civil discussion about mediation objectives is crucial. Both partners must be willing to participate and should arrive with a list of priorities for resolution.
Consider selecting a mediator who meets both of your requirements. Look for an individual who has completed a fundamental mediation course, holds certification in a specialized field, possesses relevant experience, and maintains neutrality towards both parties to ensure fairness.
Consult an Attorney
Divorces can vary in terms of conflict levels. If you and your spouse find it impossible to interact politely, even in writing or with the help of a mediator, you might opt to communicate through your lawyers. Your divorce lawyer is your representative and can articulate your position without emotional interference. Additionally, your attorney can help address your needs without direct interaction with your spouse.
Communicate Through Writing
Whenever possible, communicate with your spouse in written form to ensure that everything is documented for your attorney and potential court proceedings. Written evidence of your spouse’s bad faith or harmful messages can support your legal claims. Family court judges frown upon bad behavior, and such evidence can negatively impact a party’s case.
This applies to you as well, so manage and control your own language. While responding to your spouse’s hurtful remarks with similar words can be tempting, remember that your actions are closely scrutinized during a divorce. When you feel anger building, take a break. Avoid “trigger words” that might provoke an argument with your spouse. Stay calm at all times, and never let interactions escalate to violence.
Review Social Media Privacy Settings
Regarding written communications, remember that your spouse and their attorney may closely examine your social media profiles. It’s important to review your privacy settings and be mindful about every post you share.
Even if your account is set to private, others can still access your information. The most secure option during this challenging period is to step away from social media. If you continue using these platforms, avoid discussing your divorce or spouse. Keep your private matters confidential.
Discover Shared Interests
Going through a divorce often means you’re struggling to reach agreements on certain issues. This struggle can lead to hostility, escalating into more severe conflicts if not managed properly. While you might not agree on all matters, there are usually some points of agreement. For instance, both of you might prioritize your children, or perhaps you desire something your spouse doesn’t mind agreeing to. Identifying these common grounds can simplify the process for everyone involved.
Endnote
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